Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Breaking up is hard to do.

I love love! I always have, probably always will.

There is nothing more exciting than getting to know someone new who you have that *spark* --the undeniable click--with. Everything about them seems just perfect, you get so lost in attraction and lust, life becomes a fun game: will he call or text you? When he does, how long will you wait till you text/call him back? You check your phone hoping you'll have a nice little present in the form of a text message or e-mail from them that makes your heart do somersaults and a puts a goofy grin on your face for the rest of the day.

Thoughts of him make you so elated, you overlook that he spelt to when it should have been too.

Ah! The beginning... it's all sunshine, butterflies and rainbows. A world where you believe that nothing could ever possibly go wrong; nothing could burst this glorious little bubble.

But those things you were willing to overlook in the beginning, when your judgement was clouded by lust, don't go away. The qualities you once thought were adorable and endearing, you now find annoying and infuriating.

When the realization comes, and you know that the person sitting in front of you is not the right one for you, why is it so hard to break it off?? And even if the breakup is amicable, why does it still hurt??

Well, the thing is, breaking off a romance sucks, no matter how mature you are about it. It makes you feel a little bit like a fool to have gotten involved with someone with who, in hindsight you kinda knew it could never have worked out with in the first place. But, if you are anything like me, regardless of how wrong you may have been for each other, you still think back and analyze every moment, wondering if there was something you could have done differently that would have resulted in a not so unplesant outcome.

But living with a heavy heart is tough. How do you get over a heartbreak?? Well here are some quick tips to help in dealing with heartache.

1• Be active-- When you are in a relationship, it is easy to forget about your fitness and get a little squishy. Get back to the gym or yoga, or just go for a long walk! The endorphins released through exercise is exactly what you need to kick you out of your breakup slump.

2• Get back in the game-- I am not saying to jump right into another relationship, but, going on a harmless little date to boost your confidence will help in healing your bruised heart, and remind you that this breakup is not, in fact, the end of the world. For first date tips, click here and here

3•Stay busy-- Idle hands are not good when you are newly single: they can lead to excess facebook creeping and sending of emotional text messages... Keep busy by staying active, reading a book or picking up an old hobby. Spend time with your bffs who have not been seeing very much of you!
4• Enroll in CreComm- The Creative Communications program is so eff-ing busy, that between chatting with hockey wives at the Moose game, then writing a story about it on a tight deadline, playing director in the creation of a hilarious infomercial, and working on photos and layout for a magazine you are creating, producing and launching, you will no time to even think about your bruised little heart.

Break-up Blues
-2 oz blueberry vodka
-5 mint leaves
-soda water
-1 lime
-5 blueberries

-Squeeze the juice from the lime into a glass with the 5 mint leaves, muddle
-Pour in vodka, add the blueberries, fill glass with ice
-fill glass with soda water, stir



  1. Great post Rachelle. And the Break-up Blues sounds delicious.

  2. Awesome post, up-beat and soo true, however we all know you need those few weeks of being a disaster after the real big heartbreaks. xox

  3. @ Pamela - Yes, this is advice for category 1 through 4 break ups only.

    And for the boy (sorry, man) who inspired this post, if you read it, I'm truly sorry that it didn't work out.

    Breaks my heart a bit....

  4. Lets hear the hockey wives story!! Or at least send it to me! Hehehe